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I create spaces where your nervous system exhales, your heart softens and love stops being something to chase and starts being something you become.

Whether you’re a woman tired of attracting emotionally unavailable men, or you’re in a relationship that feels “almost right” but not quite fulfilling…

Whether you’re craving deeper intimacy, healthier boundaries or a circle of humans who get it

My work is where therapy meets embodiment, connection meets community and healing meets real-world change.

From 1:1 sessions to candlelit circles this is where you learn to love better, feel safer and finally come home.

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How I Am Embracing Effortlessness In My Life

How I Am Embracing Effortlessness In My Life

BY NORA WENDEL

RELATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST

For those who crave real connection. Heal patterns. Love deeper.

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I have a new word in my daily vocabulary, a word that rolls off my tongue and wraps me in the glow of beauty. It expands my heart with excitement of possibility of ease, grace and flow.

 

My new me is; EFFORTLESS.

 

Like the last moments of meditation, when you have sunk in deep into the presence of being, sweet, held, nurtured. That’s what is effortlessness to me.

 

It’s who I want to be, it’s how I want to show up, It’s how my life unfolds around me.

 

ef·fort·less
/ˈefərtləs/
adjective
  1. requiring no physical or mental exertion
    achieved with admirable ease.

 

Ease, Grace, flow, knowing, elegant, natural…

 

Effortlessly ME.

 

I get to be me and have all I want come to me.
Doesn’t that sound wonderful?

 

I’m done with it being hard, complicated, a struggle. “It” meaning all my desires.

 

I say no to having to push to show up
I say no to having to worry for my fears
I say no to not seeing the abundance
I say no to fighting myself to be me

 

I’m cutting back on HARD in my life.

 

No more hard work, no more hard edges, no more hard thoughts, no more hard ideas of creating.

 

Instead I ask myself – how can I make this EFFORTLESS…

 

In other words;
How can I make this easy?
How can I make this fun?
How can I make this flow?

 

My journal get’s my daily love, I ask myself this every time I feel that stuckness, that jaggedness of me fighting upstream.

 

I truly believe life can be lived downstream, stop the frantic paddling, you aren’t GETTING anywhere.
Let go of the paddles and you float downstream.

 

I scan my life and see where I’ve been frantically paddling, tuck the oars back in.

 

Maybe that’s letting go of some aspect of my business that feels like too much effort
Maybe that’s hiring a new VA to do my content repurposing 
Maybe that’s deciding to work a max of 4 hours a day
Maybe that’s raising my prices so I show up fully in my worth and have more intimate time periods with my clients
Maybe it’s upgrading my phone to the newest so it syncs more to my laptop
Maybe it’s reading more and being on the laptop less.

 

Actually it’s all the above and more.

 

Remember this is a daily question I’m asking.

 

If effortlessness is the new me it’s going to lead to a life of effortless pleasure and effortless luxury.

Now doesn’t that sound like the kind of life you want to be living?
Welcome to my life.

 

xo
Nora

 

If you want my help in transforming your life from struggle to effortlessness, this is the work I do in my group coaching programs. Send me an email via the contact form here, if you want to know more about what those look like and how they can TRANSFORM your life!

 

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Hi, I’m Nora Wendel (MSc), a Relational Psychologist who refuses to do surface-level. I’m here for the ones who are done pretending, starving for something real, and secretly aching to be seen, not just in life, but in love.

In my world, masks come off and both connection and relationships get raw, alive, and wildly human.

With a mix of psychology, psychotherapy tools, and nervous system magic, I guide you out of your head, into your body, and into the kind of love and connection we’re all craving…the kind that feels safe, electric, and deeply alive.

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