Once trust has been broken specifically in your relationship, it takes ALOT to trust again.
Breaking trust can look like;
Being lied to
Abused (any kind of abuse)
Having their needs put in front of yours + the relationship needs
Having your values denied
Having your boundaries crossed
Trust is the unspoken agreement of ANY relationship and it’s one of the foundational pillars to have a thriving, secure and loving relationship.
If your trust has been broken it takes some deeper searching inside yourself to find out how you want to move on from this.
You can forgive and move forward
You can resent and be vengeful
You can collapse and be in fear forever.
I teach women how to trust again and it starts by trusting YOURSELF that you know your boundaries, know how to create that feeling of safety for yourself and know what trust FEELS like.
I call it stacking safety.
When a women feels fully safe, that’s when she fully blossoms.
It’s like micro dosing on trust that builds more trust that builds safety that builds to confidence that builds to feeling empowered in yourself.
The worst thing about having your trust broken in a relationship?
You lose belief in yourself.
You lose respect for yourself.
You start to question yourself.
“Why did I stay for so long?”
“Why didn’t I say anything?”
“Why didn’t I uphold my boundaries?”
That is what makes it so difficult to trust again.
It’s actually not about HIM, it’s about YOU.
The worst thing about having your trust broken in a relationship is that you realise your lack of personal empowerment.
You feel disempowered IN YOURSELF.
Ashamed: “what could I have done differently?”
Guilty: “this wouldn’t have happened if…”
Confused: “how could this have happened?”
Angry: “why did I allow it?”
I’m a ninja at personal empowerment because I had 10 years of chronic anxiety where I didn’t feel like I could be alone hence being in toxic relationships where I lied to myself that I was ‘ok’.
Time to level up ladies.
Trust is the baseline of confidence and feeling like ‘I GOT THIS’ (and that is what an empowered woman feels no matter what!)
Here are 5 ways to rebuild broken trust;
Know what boundaries were crossed and be clear in yourself that you will not let that happen again.
Understand how the broken trust is actually pointing to you to look at your unhealed childhood love wounds.
Decide to forgive so you can move on.
Understand what you need to feel safe from now on.
Build up your trust within YOURSELF first.
If you need help with rebuilding trust again, let’s chat.