BY NORA WENDEL

RELATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST

For those who crave real connection. Heal patterns. Love deeper.

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I need to soften
To receive

I need to soften my hard edges of reality
My knife edge of protection
My box of spiked corners
My walls of no.

I need to soften my frozen petals
Melt them before they crack

I need to soften my smile into one of knowing
Instead of one of secret seduction

I need to soften to receive.

I need to soften my grip
My fingernails digging into the earth, dirty, desolate, desperate.

I need to soften my gaze.
The piercing distrust, mistrust, judgement and fear.

I need to soften my clenched jaw
My sigh, moan, cry
Scratching at my throat
daring me to release

I need to soften my aching longing
My body moving,
Dancing to my desire.

I need to soften

soften

For when I do
My no becomes my yes
My box becomes my container
My smile becomes my secret
My cries become my pleasure

And my body becomes my temple.

-soften

Nora

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Hi, I’m Nora Wendel (MSc), a Relational Psychologist who refuses to do surface-level. I’m here for the ones who are done pretending, starving for something real, and secretly aching to be seen, not just in life, but in love.

In my world, masks come off and both connection and relationships get raw, alive, and wildly human.

With a mix of psychology, psychotherapy tools, and nervous system magic, I guide you out of your head, into your body, and into the kind of love and connection we’re all craving…the kind that feels safe, electric, and deeply alive.

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