BY NORA WENDEL

RELATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST

For those who crave real connection. Heal patterns. Love deeper.

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I healed my SHAME. ⠀
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The shame I had been carrying around me since I was 12.⠀
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It felt heavy, secretive like I was “wrong”, I was a bad person…⠀
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How many of you feel the same way about something in your life that you feel ashamed about?⠀
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Shame is debilitating, it makes us cower inside. It’s low vibration. ⠀

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💫 How do you heal shame?⠀
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It was a question that came up in a meet up I went to today.⠀

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Here’s how I healed my shame:⠀
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1️⃣ I talked about it.⠀
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It was confronting, I felt ashamed to share, I did it anyway.⠀
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You can choose to share with a complete stranger or with people you trust. ⠀
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The main point is to speak about it.⠀
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2️⃣ I forgave myself.⠀
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I am not a bad person. I didn’t do anything wrong. ⠀
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Why am I beating myself up about it inside? Why is it still with me?⠀
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I love you⠀
I forgive you⠀
I thank you⠀
I release you.⠀
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Repeat those words again and again to yourself. ⠀
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Forgive yourself. It’s no use carrying the shame around with you for the next years.⠀
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3️⃣ I asked myself what I learnt by this shame.⠀
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What was the gift, the teaching?⠀
How could I grow from this?⠀
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Perhaps even if it is just sharing about it with more people because if I felt shame around it more people would have too.⠀
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Journal, talk, ask…⠀
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This is a chance for you to expand into a more vibrant being from this.⠀
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And when you manage to release the shame (or even a part of the shame)⠀
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You start to feel⠀
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🙌🏼 LIGHTER⠀
🙌🏼 FREEER⠀
🙌🏼 HAPPIER⠀
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Like why didn’t I do this earlier?⠀
Why have I been carrying this around for days/months/years.⠀
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You got this.⠀
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You can be you without the baggage.⠀
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What shame are you ready to release today?⠀
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Xoxox⠀
Nora⠀

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