Core wounds are the emotional bruises you picked up early in life (often in childhood) that quietly shape how you experience love, safety and belonging today.
Every love relationship is going to bring out your core wounds. Not because the universe is cruel, but because love is the ultimate mirror.
Your core wounds aren’t just sitting quietly in the past, they’re running the show from the shadows.
They decide how you text back, how you fight, who you chase, who you ghost.
And then you get into a relationship and BOOM…
Suddenly you’re triggered, overreacting, shutting down, people-pleasing, or sabotaging and you think the relationship is the problem.
But here’s the thing:
It’s not about finding someone who never triggers you.
It’s about finding someone who’s willing to do the work with you and learning to spot which wound is being activated so you can respond instead of react.
Where do Core Wounds come from?
Core wounds usually come from moments in your childhood where you felt:
- Unseen
- Unloved
- Unwanted
- Unsafe
- Unworthy
…and because those moments happened when you were little, you didn’t have the tools to process them (your brain wasn’t cognitively developed enough to understand what was happening) so they got stored in your body and nervous system.
As an adult, those wounds turn into patterns:
- Feeling rejected over small things (late text = crazy spiral)
- People-pleasing to avoid conflict
- Shutting down when you feel misunderstood
- Chasing love that feels just out of reach
- Sabotaging relationships that feel too good
Core wounds are the invisible scripts that make you react instead of respond. They’re not “bad”. They’re just the scared, younger parts of you trying to protect you from getting hurt again.
Doing core wound work is like turning the lights on.
Instead of letting those old hurts run the show from the shadows, you bring them into the open, give them what they needed back then and stop letting them drive your present. You stop being run by that scared 5-year-old inside and start leading with your grown-ass self.
Therefore, you get to respond instead of react, choose instead of chase and love without losing yourself.
Triggers become invitations
Relationships feel safer
You choose from self-trust, not fear
Doesn’t that sound like freedom?
This is the work I do in my 1:1 sessions with clients who are desiring to become better humans. For themselves and for the world.
If you are ready to stop letting your core wounds run your adult life. Book in here for a no-cost discovery call with me to learn how I can help you stop self-sabotaging, stop repeating patterns in your life and find more freedom. Find out more about my and my style of hybird psychology sessions/coaching sessions here.
Love you,
Xo
Nora
