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Nora Wendel Holistic Relationship Coach for Women

I create spaces where your nervous system exhales, your heart softens and love stops being something to chase and starts being something you become.

Whether you’re a woman tired of attracting emotionally unavailable men, or you’re in a relationship that feels “almost right” but not quite fulfilling…

Whether you’re craving deeper intimacy, healthier boundaries or a circle of humans who get it

My work is where therapy meets embodiment, connection meets community and healing meets real-world change.

From 1:1 sessions to candlelit circles this is where you learn to love better, feel safer and finally come home.

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5 Steps To Get Over Your Insecurities

5 Steps To Get Over Your Insecurities

BY NORA WENDEL

RELATIONAL PSYCHOLOGY

For those who crave real connection. Heal patterns. Love deeper.

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Insecurity is UNS€XY. [There I said it. And this is a rant!]⁠

Looking in the mirror; a bit of Botox on the brow, tuck under the chin, folds by your belly, veins on your legs. Hands scour your body seeing it’s flaws.⁠

Cover up, hide, feel shameful.⁠
Saying no to going out.⁠
Saying no to being fully naked (lights off only?)⁠

Feeling inadequate, not enough, wanting more, wanting what SHE has.⁠

Not smiling because your teeth aren’t straight.⁠
Not wearing shorts because your thighs rub together.⁠
Not dancing because you feel like an idiot.⁠
Not saying yes to the party because you’ll only know one person there.⁠

Resonate?⁠

The good news is we ALL have some form of insecurities, some of us just don’t let it rule our lives because we truly *get* that it doesn’t matter.⁠

Now you’re probably asking- HOW did you reach that stage of moving past your insecurities?⁠

This is the core of what I’m teaching in my new 12 week in depth program “The School Of Feminine Magnetism”⁠

I’ll outline it here briefly;⁠

1. Look at where you feel inadequate⁠
2. Trace it back to childhood memories⁠
3. Integrate those memories⁠
4. Create new thoughts using brain reprogramming⁠
5. Embody and FEEL the new way of being⁠

Step 5 is key because I know you KNOW you shouldn’t feel insecure, yet you still feel it.⁠

COGNITIVE DISSONANCE ⁠
The gap between knowing and feeling and this gap causes immense internal conflict.⁠

If you are ready to stop letting your insecurities rule your life, come join my live group coaching program – The School Of Feminine Magnetism.



Xo Nora⁠

And here’s the last part- insecurity is uns.xy because men can sense it in you as neediness in validation, “text me”, “tell me I’m beautiful” or “will he leave me?” ⁠

Also you can’t be fun, playful and flirty if you feel insecure and a man loves a fun, playful and flirty woman who doesn’t take herself too seriously.⁠

You can’t tease my thoughts if underneath it you are thinking “does he mean that?”, “he’s lying”, “can’t be true”.⁠

Teasing is all about flirting with the mind and if your mind is insecure you’ll shut it down. Where’s the feminine fun in that?⁠

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 Hi, I’m Nora Wendel (MSc Psychology), and I work in the field of Relational Psychology. I’m here for the ones who are done pretending, starving for something real, and secretly aching to be seen, not just in life, but in love.

In my world, masks come off and both connection and relationships get raw, alive, and wildly human.

With a mix of psychology, psychotherapy tools, and nervous system magic, I guide you out of your head, into your body, and into the kind of love and connection we’re all craving…the kind that feels safe, electric, and deeply alive.

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