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You’re not broken for wanting a ‘high value ma

You’re not broken for wanting a ‘high value man.’
You’re scared.

Scared of choosing wrong again. Scared of getting hurt again. Scared of wasting more time on someone who leaves.

So you created a checklist.

A way to guarantee safety. A promise that if he checks all the boxes; successful, stable, evolved, confident…you’ll finally be protected from heartbreak.

I get it.

After everything you’ve been through? Of course you want insurance.

But here’s what I need you to understand:
The checklist isn’t protecting you. It’s just giving you the illusion of control.

You’re asking: ‘Will he stay? Will he see me? Will I be enough?’

Those are real, valid, human needs.
But you can’t meet them with a checklist.

Inside this carousel, I walk you through the 6 core wounds hiding beneath ‘I want a high value man’ and why the strategy you think is protecting you is actually keeping you stuck.

This isn’t about lowering your standards.

It’s about understanding what you’re REALLY looking for so you can finally find it.

This is PART 2 of a 3-part series.

Tomorrow, I’m showing you how to choose a good man WITHOUT a checklist by learning to feel into connection instead of evaluating credentials.

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Let me ask you something uncomfortable: When’s t

Let me ask you something uncomfortable:
When’s the last time you went on a date and actually felt present?

Not monitoring yourself. Not calculating your next move. Not wondering if you’re doing it ‘right.’
Just... there.

With him. In the moment. Actually experiencing the connection instead of managing it.

I’m guessing it’s been a while.
Because somewhere along the way, you stopped dating and started performing.

You learned the rules. You followed the script. You became the ‘high value woman’ Instagram told you to be.

And now?
You’re exhausted.

Every date feels like an audition. Every text requires strategy. Every interaction needs to be calibrated.

You think you’re protecting yourself.
But really? You’re just proving to good men that you’re not actually available for connection.

Because you’re too busy executing a strategy to let anyone in.

Here’s what no one tells you:

The ‘high value’ performance isn’t making you more attractive. It’s making you unreachable.

And the men who would’ve stayed? They’re walking away not because you’re not enough, but because you won’t let them meet you.

Inside this carousel, I break down exactly what this performance looks like through HIS eyes. And why it’s killing your chances with the men you actually want.

This is PART 1 of a 3-part series.

Tomorrow, I’m breaking down what you REALLY mean when you say ‘I want a high value man’ and why that’s keeping you single.

Follow so you don’t miss it.

(Comment ‘PART 2’ below if you want me to tag you when it drops.)

You healed, journaled, did the inner work…but so

You healed, journaled, did the inner work…but somehow ended up with a remix of your ex.

Different face. Same abandonment wound.

Different job. Same commitment issues.

Different age. Same emotional unavailability.

Your nervous system doesn’t want ‘better.’

It wants familiar.
And that’s why you keep swiping right on different versions of the same lesson.

Tag someone who needs this wake-up call 💀

(Or save it because it’s you and you’re not ready to admit it yet.)

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#toxicpatterns #consciousdating #healingjourney #viralmemesdaily #datingmemes #datinghelp

You’re still single. Still swiping. Still repeat

You’re still single.
Still swiping.
Still repeating the same cycle.
Still wondering when the knowing will turn into changing.

Because here’s the truth:

You’re not healing. You’re just becoming really educated about why you’re stuck.

Awareness doesn’t equal transformation.

You can’t see your own blind spots while you’re in them.

The women who work with me aren’t different from you.

They’re just done.

Done being the smartest single woman in the room.
Done watching themselves repeat the same pattern.
Done understanding everything and changing nothing.

They didn’t need more posts. They needed someone to show them what they couldn’t see alone.

DM me READY to not just talk about your patterns but to REWIRE them in real time in my 1-1 sessions.

Imagine dating without the mental scorecards. Wit

Imagine dating without the mental scorecards.

Without replaying every text, every date choice, every ‘sign’ he’s low effort.

Imagine feeling into a man not analyzing him.

Imagine attracting men who feel safe showing up imperfectly with you.

This is what we build together in 1-1 sessions.

Book your call with me and let’s explore working together.

Let’s rewire how you date from the nervous system up.

We’ll work on exactly where you’re losing good men and how to shift it before the next one walks away.

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